Is even worse than the endogenous consequence, which can meet us in the quarrel. This is something we call "full twist. Jam is a complete state, which has already so deeply zabrnąłeś an argument that you forgot about what really is kłócisz. Your mind no longer occupies the quarrel, and only a desire to win. Desire to win makes the jump to warp the thread just to show the enemy that it was you're right. It is the most dangerous variety of arguments, in which, as everyone probably has not once attended. Most dangerous is that each participant believes an argument that can ultimately win it. Is there such a thing as winning the argument? You can certainly say that someone loses an argument, and lost every single participant in poverty. You can not win the argument, because even when, objectively speaking (which is very difficult and contested issue, which leads to another argument) one person is right, because endogenous consequences of the other person will defend his views "to the last blood." Even if in the end to acknowledge the error, it will be so mad at myself and other participants in the quarrel, it can even break all ties with them. So what to do when you are zagmatwanym an argument with an element of "total jam"? There are two effective ways. If this is your quarrel with your girlfriend, this task will be most effective the question, "What I strive and do what I am doing now will lead me there?". This question can show you the absurdity of an argument and indicate how to resolve the original problem that caused the dispute. You may also wonder how "intellectually" to resolve disputes exasperated. If kłócisz a person close to you is think about what is more important to you. Is it that she will grant you are right, but it will be on you (and myself) extremely upset, which will worsen your relationship, whether the solution of the original problem. A question about the purpose of an argument you can be very helpful in disputes which are inevitable in human relationships. However, be situations that you poirytują so that in any way will not be able to calm and reasonable approach to a quarrel. In the moments when you know that you are not able to reconcile with his girlfriend and you feel it is best to postpone dogryźć your call to another date. In this state, nothing good to come of your talk is not, and it can only lead to a deterioration of your relationship. So if you find yourself in this situation, calmly tell her that it is better to talk about this when you will be slightly more productive emotional states and Settle calmly discuss the matter tomorrow. This will be the best solution for you and for her.
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